Where is your focus in your relationship? When your focus is purely on what you can get out of the relationship that is not love. If the chemistry is awesome, then it is definitely lust if you're just worried about yourself. It could be a few other things, as well but none of them what a relationship should truly be based on.
When you truly love someone, you will put their needs first. And let me just preface here, that it should be mutually beneficial. If both partners aren't being equal, then the relationship is unbalanced and dysfunctional. You should never have to sacrifice who you are for the sake of another person. It should not be one-sided with you doing everything you can to satisfy them in every way and then being ignored, taken for granted, or abused. Many of us are taught to put the others needs first without the aforementioned stipulations. I have fallen in that vicious cycle where I gave my all, changed to make them happy, denied myself of my needs only to end up being abused. And let me tell you the situation can come about so subtly that you're caught unaware until you're in too deep to remove yourself without being hurt. So you should never sacrifice yourself (i.e. who you are, your needs, etc.) for someone who is careless with his mutual love and support. That is a dysfunctional situation and you may need to remove yourself if it's too severe to find the proper resolution for both to be mutually loved and supported.
And in actuality, this truly goes for all of our relationships/friendships because it should be a mutually beneficial situation in all of our relationship types. You have to stand firm in your knowledge of who you are and your worth and not sacrifice that for anything. Don't settle into a relationship just so you're not alone. Don't sleep with/date others to validate your own self-worth. These will never give you what you're truly looking for and leave you with more problems than solutions.
Work on becoming everything you desire for in a partner and they will come along. And value yourself enough to wait.
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