We've all been both the victim and the perpetrator of this crime. And we have that egoic mind to thank for it.
Society and our egoic mind are always trying to separate others. It brings with it comparison and judgment. If we can separate others from ourselves, even if just mentally, then we can deem ourselves better, more superior, justify our thoughts, feelings and actions, or fit the role that our ego would have us be playing at any given moment. It wants to feel special, more superior, better than others, all in hopes it feels happy but that's only a temporary means of happiness.
And when it's someone else passing judgment on us by how we used to be or what has happened in our past, then ego gets defensive, even to the point of aggression, if needed to prove that it's "right" and the other is "wrong". Again it's trying prove itself more worthy than someone else.
Well can we ever truly silence this egoic mind of ours? We can never be rid of it while in this human body, however, we can learn to realize and acknowledge when it's trying to get our attention and rule our lives. Once you are aware of it, it ceases to be the one in power. You're true authentic self, that being of love and light that is at your core will then be the influencer. You can see others with a new pair of eyes. You will realize it is their ego that's controlling them and remove the personal affront that you're feeling by the judgment. You can be more understanding that we all suffer from this at times and choose to respond in a more loving and understanding manner. You can establish proper boundaries of respect and love. If need be, you can remove from your life those toxic people who do not respect your boundaries. We can restrict contact with them, and if the relationship improves then accept them back into a closer relationship. We're able to accept and love people, regardless of their choices and beliefs, or where they are at in their lives and not try to change them to fit our needs. We truly are all the same, in that we're created out of the love and light that comprises everyone and everything, but we are able to also be amazingly, uniquely different without judgment of being so. And we must allow others to live, grow and evolve on their path, as they see fit - all the while, realizing that we all no longer live in the past or act as we did then. We're always changing and evolving.
A Moment For Inspiration
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