So many people let their thoughts run wild with no attempt at even controlling them or paying them much attention. Doing this will cause great havoc in your life.
Mind you, we have at least 60,000+ thoughts a day and it's impossible to control a lot of them. Some are automatic and deal with the processes our body goes through daily just to function. Many are unconscious thought patterns which may or may not be harmful to our well-being. We should be attempting to at least exercise some control over our waking thoughts. The very essence of these thoughts is always creating our "reality". The "reality" that we're seeing now was caused by our past thoughts. They become part of our construct, belief systems, and in turn actions. They are also deeply connected with our feelings and emotions.
When we allow ourselves to accept the information that is bombarded at us daily and begin thinking about it, these thoughts then become emotionally charged and with continued thought will become part of our belief system, regardless of the validity or not. This is why it is so important for us to be the gatekeeper of these thoughts. We should learn to remain detached from the emotion of a thought until we've entertained that thought and discovered it's validity in our lives. This reminds me of the thought by Eleanor Roosevelt, "No one can make you feel inferior without your consent." By this, she is meaning that we can entertain what others think, say, and feel about us and yet still not give them any meaning for us in our lives. I know this is much easier said than done, until you've made it a practice to really ponder your thoughts in a detached way. Most are way more likely to react negatively right away and then let that comment fester inside of them and gain more strength and power over them. A thought, feeling, or opinion that anyone has is entirely about themselves and their perspective. It says more about who they are, then it does about the person(s) it was directed towards.
That's not to say that what others say may not hurt or affect us in some way because it will. However, that is because it struck a chord inside of us. It may be something we believe to be true and may very well not want to admit or it rang true to us as a sign we're on the same page as someone else in our beliefs. These signals are a sign for us to bring attention to something. It may be something we need to learn, to change, or to connect us with someone.
So, it is vital for us to learn to watch for these signals. And to learn to remain detached from the emotion that it is eliciting in us and bringing on the urge to get defensive and strike out to harm those we feel have done so to us. Being able to live mindfully, can give you the awareness of these situations and some meditative pauses can help you avoid making the situation worse by starting arguments, being defensive, or taking on these thoughts into your lives as truth. Remember, we can change our future at any moment, simply by changing our thought patterns. Don't give into the negative stream, stop it when you notice it occurring, and replace it with something positive. If that's a struggle, then take a pause to mindfully tune into your breathing. That will bring you to a more peaceful place and a shift in your mindset. When you make this a habit, you will start to notice that you're more aware of the shift in either direction, and it will become a more automatic process to make the shift.
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